On this first (and potentially only) installment of “Frustratingly Watchable Movies,” I divert your attention to 2008′s Rachel Getting Married. Heralded as director Jonathan Demme’s return to the funky, humanistic fiction films he made in the 1980s, the movie covers the misadventures of Kym, a recovering junkie, as she leaves rehab to spend the weekend at her older sister Rachel’s wedding.
Rarely have I seen genius and inanity mingle as freely as they do in this movie. I remember coming out of the cinema and not knowing if I wanted to declare my love for Rachel Getting Married before God and all Creation or crash my car into a tree out of frustration.
It’s that kind of movie.
Here’s the thing that sets Rachel Getting Married apart. Demme does not hit you with one movie. He smuggles in two.
The first, and the one I keep returning to, is an intimate family drama centering on the antagonistic relationship between Rachel and Kym. At her core, Kym (Anne Hathaway, whose work in the film is revelatory) obsessively craves attention from anyone and everyone. Rachel (Rosemarie DeWitt) has quietly endured her sister’s grandstanding up to this point in their lives, but Kym’s increasingly desperate efforts to become the focus of the wedding ignite years of resentment inside Rachel.
The verbal and emotional warfare between the sisters would be enough to sustain most movies; Demme reportedly let his actors improvise their way through scenes, leading to some moments of bracing emotional candor, like the scene where Rachel announces her pregnancy as a means of wresting the spotlight back from Kym, a tactic that her sister sees through instantly.
Yet Demme and company let the specter of Kym’s addiction loom over the proceedings, giving the film a richness of tragedy it might otherwise lack. Without getting too spoilery, Kym did some atrocious things to her family when she was on drugs, and her presence at the wedding brings those horrors back to the surface. As we watch Kym struggle with her demons, she gains a vulnerability beyond Hathaway’s innate likeability; her boorish behavior is a smokescreen to keep from facing the hurt she causes.
In its own way, this first movie is as good as vintage Eugene O’Neill—it’s that emotionally raw and honest.
The problem is Movie #2. That wedding that’s brought everyone together? Demme insists on showing it in what feels like real time. He gives us long scenes of nothing but nuptials, from the pre-wedding party, to the rehearsal dinner, to the wedding itself, to the celebration afterwards. It all amounts to creating what Demme referred to “The New York Times” HERE as “the most beautiful home movie ever made.”
Objectively, I cannot fault him. Half of the film feels like his stated intention, with authentic toasts and slightly awkward declarations of love and boisterous merrymaking. It’s quite the sight, this full, happy, enthusiastically multicultural wedding, and I wanted to shoot myself whenever the film shifted its attention back to the ceremony.
Here’s the thing: it’s not my family. If Demme is giving me is a wedding video, why should I care about anyone in it that isn’t related to me? If a colleague at work put on his wedding video, I’d watch as little as I had to in order to maintain the illusion of politesse before sneaking off to throw up. There is nothing more boring than watching the family celebrations of a family not yours, except maybe watching a fake wedding put on by some extremely committed individuals. Bravo, Mr. Demme!
And again, I’m not against substantial playback given to the event in theory—if it elaborates on the main action, go for it. Think of The Godfather. The whole movie is set up in that opening wedding ceremony; Francis Ford Coppola is so canny about contrasting what we see there with the violent occurrences later on.
None of that in this movie. These scenes don’t reflect back on the central conflict between Kym and Rachel, either explicitly or obliquely. They don’t even maintain the same emotional tone of the rest of the film. The film lurches suddenly from painful scenes of emotional anguish to upbeat wedding festivities. If the actors weren’t the same in both movies (including non sequitur cameos from Demme cohorts like Don Harrison, Pastor Robert Castle, Robyn Hitchcock, and Roger Corman), you’d assume some random dude spliced their family’s home movies into this edgy, little indie drama.
Is the bifurcated structure in keeping with early Demme? Sure. Something Wild, for example, hums along as an energetic screwball comedy for its first half and then turns into a more violent thriller in its second half. But the stakes were lower in that film; at the end of the day, Something Wild is the screen version of the old advertisement where the 90-lbs weakling finds the strength to take on the bully kicking sand in his face. It’s insubstantial fluff.
Rachel Getting Married is a more sober beast. It’s bonds of love and hate that join families together, about the possibility for redemption, about being your own worst enemy, except all of that goes into the penalty box every time Demme wants to get his wedding on. It throws the film off-kilter, obscuring the dramatic greatness present.
But, man, that greatness is there, and it’s so potent it can knock the wind out of you.